Love yourself through the lows
Some days are lower than others. Some days the weight in our chests encourage our bodies to stop, slowdown and reset. That is okay. It's okay to have a day where your goal is to nurture yourself as you would a friend who is having a low day. You're worthy regardless of your productivity, you're worthy because you are human. A magical moment in time filled with all the beauty you see around you.
The beauty within you and this world flexes its power on your lowest days. The beauty witnessed on good days remains on the days your chest may push you to focus on the pain. A pain that is very real and yet you can manage it, and I say this with confidence because you’re here with me now, reading in rhythm with your gaze. You have survived every low day up to this moment and you will survive every low day to come. So, make the low days as comforting as possible, by comforting yourself.
How do you like to comfort yourself? Not sure? That’s okay, take a moment…What brings you relief at the end of a challenging day? It could be a bath or shower, the smell of a certain perfume or oil, a certain taste, particular words of affirmation, moving your body in a certain way, maybe even to a certain rhythm, a stretch, a breath or a walk. It can be anything that feels healing for your body, mind or soul. On your low days do these comforting things, and tenderly hold space for yourself when you need it. You deserve that kind of love.
Judgement, shame and even a sense of hopelessness can overwhelm your mind in moments of weakness, moments when your most battled emotions are in the front seat. On a low day your body communicates its needs to you in different ways, be it a weight in your chest, the heaviness of your eyes or the lethargic muscle aches that make moving almost impossible. We can perceive these experiences as signs rather than intruders. If judgement and shame aren't guiding you the idea of receiving the weight, lethargy and the aches as signs might not seem so crazy. You can try and fight off the intruder and I'm sure with all the battles you have fought up until this point you know exactly how to win, how to get rid of the feeling and get on with it. You're a warrior I have no doubt. But fighting is exhausting and some days you may not have fight in you. It's then you might choose acceptance. An acceptance that looks not like a white flag but rather a powerful golden warm glow that surges through your chest and surrounds that weight, creating space for you to move, breathe and nurture yourself. Then, the weight wont feel so debilitating and rather like a visitor passing through. A visitor that may stay for an hour, a day or maybe even longer, but a visitor who chills in the background while you care yourself and continue making choices that align with your values and maybe even lead you closer to a goal. A visitor that isn't in your way.
It's okay to have low day because you're a human experiencing every pleasure, pain and purpose of life. We are going to have low days and we are thriving.